Ah...love and marriage. Most of girls want it. To be head over heels in love with Mr. Right is a dream come true. So why do waste our time with men we know aren't right for us? Is it just to say you have someone? Because we have LSE (low self-esteem) or is it just to past the time? Too many times we ignore our sixth sense because we fear being alone or not having a date for the company Christmas party. But why bother checking for the zeros when we know they have nothing to offer? Some zeros come disguised as ones. They woo us, do us, then disappear without a trace. And the worst kind is the almost-husband, the one who goes a long for as long as he can and then when he realizes that marriage is the next step, he bolts. It could be fear, it could be because he's a jerk, or it could be because you are not the one for him. We have to be savvier when it comes to men. There is nothing wrong with dating like one either, meaning, don't put all your shrimp in one basket. Enjoy the buffet and try a little bit of everything.
It is a fact that it is easier for a man to get married than it is for a woman, particularly in the late 20s and the 30s. Why? Because there are less men to marry and more women who want to get married. A man can fall off the turnip truck, say he wants to settle down, and bam, a month later he's engaged or married. Meanwhile, one single woman is off the market, and 20 more come to replace her.
Be sure you are your best you that you can be. Like attracts alike. If you want a husband, act like a wife. Know how to cook, clean, and heat it up in rooms other than the kitchen. It is a fact that men require sex as a part of their livelihood, and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't use sex as weapon either. Holding out on sex with a man you love is silly and immature. Don't nag him, complain that he doesn't make enough money, or criticize his bad habits. You can make suggestions, however, don't turn something small into something big for no reason. Keep yourself up after you've landed your catch. Don't start falling off in your appearance because let me tell you that is the quickest way to turn a man off. In other words, don't get too comfortable. And he should respond in kind, making sure he's on point at all times. Lastly, always be supportive, even if you think his idea or goal is silly. If he makes it or breaks it, at least he can say, my woman was there through it all.
How do you know if a man is the one? When he's the one, it's right. They'll be little drama if there is any at all. You won't have to go out of your way to be with him because he will want to be with you. He will not ask you to take care of him. He will not ask you to do anything that he would not do for you. He will be a gentleman. He will hold your hand and offer his shoulder when you need it. He will not criticize you. He will offer his advice and his help if you need it. He will call you just to hear your voice. He will give you flowers just because. He will be proud to show you off to his family and friends. He will defend you and be down like four flat tires. He will marry you and you will work it out no matter what.
Don't be fooled by the zeros pretending to be heroes. They are smooth in their approach, but like a knock-off handbag, their flaws will always shine through.
(Photo by Robert Glenn)
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